有一本书这样写着＂每个孩子都来自天堂，他们都㙲有不同的天赋，父母尽可能相信孩子具有能力在错误中学习及成长。让他们有自己的自由及空间去发挥无限的潛能。＂
父母因为无法接受自己的孩子与別人不同；时时不停的与别家孩子作比较，那父母肯定不开心，也可能天天生气! （只有当一个人生理上有毛病时，他会无法控制自己发脾气。）如果身体健康的父母，对孩子、事、物有所期待\要求，而期待\要求不是自己想要的就生气、感到失望。
父母如果可以将孩子视为一个独力的个体，接受孩子的独特，在適当时订定合宜的限制、引导、改善、支持、信任、愛及关注，就是父母职责中最大的成就。还有在教养这条路上，最好不过的方式即是模仿、身教。
请父母们永远记得＂没有哪个孩子比哪个孩子好，他们只是不同罷了!＂父母往往误以为自己最清楚什么最適合孩子，即使孩子是一棵苹果树，父母也執意要让他长成一棵梨树，这不是阻碍孩子的发展？
我注意到女孩好像比较容易管教。但我知道女孩或男孩，他们对自己所作所为感到疲惫时，那时候，他们就会改变!＂那时候＂会是几时? 我不知道⋯我只能很用心，给于充分的时间及空间让他们去经历及成长。
I will try my best to translate my article above. This is the sharing on my own experience in parenting.
I read somewhere, it stated "Children are from heaven". They are unique, talented in their own way, parents please trust children will learn and grow from the mistakes they encountered. All they need from us is our trust and space for them to excel!
Parents please do not compare your children and they should be individualize! Do you know why you are upset with your children? You have an EXPECTATION and when the expectations have not been fulfilled, you got upset / angry / frustrated.
Parents have forgotten, all children are special in their own way and cannot be compared. Most parents have this thinking "They are MY children, I know the best for them!" Even you know they are an apple tree but you want to up bringing them as pearl tree!!! Do you see the damage?
My unique one at home is a boy and I always think girls might be easy to manage. Now, I changed my thought, whether he is boy or she is a girl. Only if I allow the space, time, provide the guidance & support, give them the trust, confident and lot of love, they will grow strong and excel. Not forgetting, one of the key word in parenting - ROLE MODEL! Don't let this fail you.
We cannot change anyone including the children, only when they are sick and tired of what they are doing or even himself. He will CHANGE I have no clue when but the day will come. Parents need to have patience and most importantly, with love & trust.
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| 谢谢你出现，让我学习、成长及继续把光与爱分享出去。我爱你。 |
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