今天心血来潮找出了我儿初生的照片，好多感触。也在此刻，觉悟这个点子，＂对于孩子值得奬励的行为给予鼓励，是把焦点放在孩子正面的表现上。处罚孩子就是把焦点放在孩子犯的錯。並且会增强孩子天生就是坏、需要被導正的错观念，这样孩子的优点就无法表现出来。＂
Spending some time going through Qin Kai's new born photos and memories flashes. It took me a moment to realize 'when we compliment the kid, we are focusing on their good whereas, when we focused on their bad, the kid will have the judegement that they are not good enough and they never excel and hence, they are not able to show their talent!'
好多时侯，只要有状况，我还是会專注孩子所犯的错。结果呢，错也会接二连三的出现！因为孩子已经知道不论他怎么做，我只会觉得他不夠好。我想这情景，你也不陌生吧! 现在，我会时时提醒自己，多多收集孩子優秀的正面的行为及表现，不要吝啬给予支持、鼓励，这会让孩子继续前进的一大推力。
Most of the time, I still have this habbit to complaint and focus on Qin Kai's attitude, behaviour and things that we did that didn't meet my expectation.I have to keep reminding myself, LOOK for the good things he has done and uplift him in that area. There are areas he has been trying hard to improve and why I am not seeing that and praise him?
I am changing that and I can see the result almost immediately that he wanted to show more how good he can have a task / homework done! He even asked me if he can translate a song from the Chinese to English version.
I think he did a good translation. He surely deserve a merit (this is something he is so exciting about to have a merit recorded in his student planner after he submitted his homework!). I gave him a big hug and kiss when he showed me this.
还记得之前分享一闪一闪亮晶晶片尾曲，＂路要自己走＂。以下是勤暟的英语版本。
我知道對你來說 這世界有一點複雜
我知道你肯付出 卻不懂該如何表達
我知道你不喜歡 成人世界的偽裝
我知道關於未來 你有自己的想法
天地萬物都有存在這世上的意義
沒有一個人有放棄的權利
我會牽著你的手 但是路要自己走
面對選擇的時候 聽聽心底寧靜的角落
有一天我會放手 因為路要自己走
失去方向的時候 記得抬頭仰望 清澈的天空
I know that this world is very confusing for you
I know that you could help but you don't know where to start from
I know that you don't like the adult world and mind
I know that about future you have your own thinking
Every single hing on this works have a reason to live
None of you have a chance to give up
I will hold your hand But you need to grow up
When you need to make your choice Pls listen to your heart
One day I will let go Cause you need to grow up
When you are lost in someway Remember to raise your head And have a look at the sky
以下这一段摘自朋友面子书的分享语，共勉之：
「做父母的，縱使放手，仍有索掛。那不是责任，是因为愛」
「做兒女的，縱使做不到贴心，也要让父母放心。那不是责任，是因为愛。」
Lastly, this is a very nice quote my friend share
There still worry, once parents let go. That's no responsibility, that is LOVE.
If children cannot be 100% caring to their parents, at least don't let us worry. This is not responsibility, this is LOVE.
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| The little handsome, so adorable... |
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| The outstanding one ^-^ |
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| The guidelines and once done, LET GO .... |
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| He is really awaresome - the new word to uplift him this week |
